The 10 lines to avoid when a child is afraid:

1). Deny
It's nothing! Reaction that we use with a vengeance, when a child falls, because we believe and protect it from fear. Instead, recognize it! Were you afraid? You hurt yourself? I was afraid for that matter when I saw you fall! ...

2). Want to reassure all costs
Attitude also returning to deny emotion yet present in children. The ghosts do not exist. This makes him look good ... Let's hear first what he sees as potential dangers for him to meet a ghost, he imagines the meeting fantasy. Only then reassure him.

3). Minimize
A big beast who is afraid of a little! Who has not heard that answer, one day? Seek instead to understand what this little beast for the child and what could reassure him.



4). Humiliate
Cadum baby, coward! There is nothing worse than feeling judged or humiliated when you're scared. This creates forever narcissistic injuries and prevents the development of self-esteem.

5). Overprotect
You'll fall! The risk is to oversize the initial fear of the child or transpose own fears of the adult to the child thus prevent it from progressing to face such a situation.

6). Force
Come with me now and you will see that nothing will happen to you! Type of binding instruction that can really create not only a sense of panic in children but, moreover, nothing prevents him from feeling it grow in the pride of having exceeded his fear by his own inner resources. Let the children time needed to tame their fears. So much for our desires, urgent, adults!

7). Guilty
You see, because of you, we could not go on the roller coaster type of message ... which amplifies the fear of the child and is an obstacle to overcoming potential!

8). Compare
Your sister, she, at least, dare. One is not the other. Compare brings those who are afraid to feel inferior, it is not helpful at all, on the contrary!

9). Prejudge
You're too small to get there. While we are here, as an adult, to protect the child, give him also the opportunity to assess themselves against its ability to achieve certain goals.

10). Shout
Caution! This is the kind of intervention that may create a state of panic in children. Nobody likes when he drove his car, heard his passenger screaming at his side. Will not it be the same for the child?